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如何成为一位称职的父亲? 3 ESSENTIALS EVERY MAN MUST KNOW TO BE AN ALL PRO DAD

一个好的父亲,不需要是伟大的发明家,不需要是无所不能的超人,也不需要是超级杯的大赢家,只要爱妻子、疼孩子、负责任,就是个好父亲。那么如何才能成为一个称职的好父亲呢?

发布时间:2013年01月14日

如何成为一位称职的父亲?  3 ESSENTIALS EVERY MAN MUST KNOW TO BE AN ALL PRO DAD

It’s football season! From high school to college to the NFL, men are on the gridiron seeking to win and ultimately become champions. They’re digging, clawing, and giving it all they’ve got to come out on top. 此时正值橄榄球赛季,上至国家橄榄球联盟,下至高中、大学联盟,每一位选手无不热情高涨,他们奋力拼搏、全力以赴,只为获得冠军的荣耀。 It should be no different with fatherhood. We need men out there who are in the game—the most important game of their life—working hard and striving toward the goal to be the best they can be, to be All Pro Dads.Former head coach of the Pittsburgh Steelers and four-time Super Bowl winner Chuck Noll said, “Champions are champions not because they do anything extraordinary but because they do the ordinary things better than anyone else.” 这与父亲这个角色所要担当的责任并无二致。每一个家庭都需要一个能肩负起责任的男人——这是他们人生中所要扮演的最为重要的一个角色——努力工作、为梦想奋斗、做最好的自己,成为一个称职的父亲。匹兹堡钢人队前任主教练,超级碗杯四度冠军获得者查克•诺尔说,“冠军之所以为冠军,并不是因为他们做了什么与众不同的事,而是他们能够将一件普普通通的事做得比其他人更好。” In other words, you don’t have to do spectacular highlight-reel type of things to be a Super Bowl winner. There are fundamentals that it takes to play the game. Executing those fundamentals day in and day out, that’s how you become great. That’s how you win. That’s how you become a champion. 换言之,你不需要去做什么壮举也可以成为超级碗杯的赢家。玩橄榄球是讲究基本原则的。日复一日地执行这些基本原则,你就可以变得更优秀。这也是你赢得胜利的关键,也还是你成为冠军的关键。 Just as knowing and executing the fundamentals of football are key to a player becoming an All-Pro, knowing and executing the fundamentals of fatherhood are key to a father becoming an All Pro Dad. And the two most important fundamentals for a father are love and leadership. 对橄榄球的基本原则烂熟于心,并不断地去实践,你就可以成为一个非常专业的选手;同样,父亲这一角色也是有基本原则的,只要你去遵循了它,你也能成为一个称职的父亲。对于父亲来说,最重要的两条基本原则就是爱和领导力。 Simply put, love is all about giving—giving selflessly and sacrificially to our wives, our kids and others no matter what it costs us personally. And your capacity to love will determine your capacity to lead. 简单来说,爱就是给予——为我们的妻子、孩子,以及其他亲人作出自己的牺牲。你爱的能力决定了你领导的能力。 In other words, when your spouse and children know you want what’s best for them, they’ll follow you. They’ll say to themselves: “You’ve loved me. You’ve earned the right to lead me. I’ll follow you.” 换句话说,当你的妻子儿女知道你这样做是为了他们好,他们就会支持你。他们会在心里这样想:”你爱着我。我应该听你的,我支持你。” Here are three essentials you need to know to love and, in turn, lead your kids well. 下文就是你应该要知道的关于如何去爱,然后去领导你的家庭的3个基本原则: Love your wife. For those who are married, actively loving your wife will radically strengthen your marriage and will also be incredibly beneficial to your children. The number one source of security for kids is when they know that their dad loves their mother and is steadfastly committed to her for life. 1.爱你的妻子。 对于已步入婚姻殿堂的男士来说,爱你的妻子不仅对这桩婚姻有益,还对你们的孩子很有益处。孩子需要的最重要的一份安全感就来自于他们的父亲对他们的母亲的爱,这份爱能坚定一位母亲对于生活的承诺。 When times get tough, remember that your spouse is not the enemy. You are on the same team. 当你面临困境时,你要知道你的配偶不是你的敌人,你们是自己人。 When my wife, Susan, and I have disagreements over things like disciplining our children or finances, she’ll often say to me, “Remember, I’m on your team.” 当我的妻子苏珊在教育孩子或财务方面和我有分歧时,她常常会这样对我说,”记住,我们要同舟共济。“

Marriage is the ultimate team sport. You were designed to complete each other, not compete with each other. 婚姻是一项最难的团队合作运动。双方的使命就是去完善彼此,而非互相较劲。 Spend quantity time with your kids. How you spend your time is a reflection of what’s important to you. If you value your kids, you’ll want to be with them. 2.多花些时间陪伴孩子。 从你分配时间的方式就可以看出你看重什么。如果你把孩子看成是宝贝,你就就会花许多时间陪伴他们。 As my five kids were growing up, I tried to be intentional about spending one-on-one time with each of them doing things that they wanted to do. I often put those times on my calendar as a very important appointments. 我的5个孩子正一点点长大,我总是想方设法腾出时间单独陪他们做些他们喜欢的事情。我总是会把这部分时间放到我日程安排表上的重要位置。 Remember, it’s not just about quality time; it’s about quantity time. 记住,不仅要多花时间陪伴孩子,还要享受这段时光。 Be a good role model. One of the best things you can do as a dad is to strive to live a model life that is worthy for your children to follow. Consistency, humility, and courage are all trademarks of the model dad. 3.做个好榜样。 作为一个父亲,你所能做的做有价值的一件事就是为孩子们树立起一个学习的榜样。言行一致、谦让、勇气,这些都是非常值得你的孩子去学习的高贵品质。 Integrity should also be at the top of the list. Integrity is what you do when no one else is looking. Dark secrets and addictions can cause a breach in that integrity and keep you from growing as a leader in your home. 此外,你还要身体力行着重去培养孩子们正直的品质。正直就是在你独处时的个人表现。要是你心里守着一个不便言说的秘密或吸毒成瘾,这就会影响你在家中的领导者形象。 So, if you really want to love and lead your kids well, be a worthy model of integrity for them to follow. 所以,如果你真的爱你的孩子,你真的很想教育好你的孩子,那就请你身体力行,做一个好的榜样。 These three essentials are easier said than done. My wife has thrown the flag on me when I’ve been harsh with my kids. My kids have pointed out my impatience on more than one occasion. 这3个基本原则说起来都非常容易,但做起来却都非常难。当我对待孩子太过苛责时,我的妻子就会站住来制止我。我的孩子也告诉我,我的行为在很多时候都给他们找成了一定影响。 So what do I do? I admit my mistake, humbly ask them to forgive me and then I get back in the game and strive toward the goal of being the best dad I can be. 那么,我们该怎么做呢?你要承认自己所犯的错误,还要真诚地请求他们的原谅,然后努力去做最好的父亲,不断提升自己。 Tony Dungy, former NFL coach and now NBC sports commentator, recently shared with me that, “being an All-Pro takes hard work, dedication, and executing the fundamentals on the field with sheer determination.” Tony says those same principles apply to being an All Pro Dad. 托尼•道奇,国家橄榄球联盟前任教练,现为NBC体育频道解说员,最近与我讲起,”成为一个专业选手需要一个人付出艰苦的努力,还要有忘我的精神,更要有执行基本原则的决心。“托尼说,这几个基本原则同样适用于父亲。 An All Pro Dad not only knows the fundamentals—love and leadership—but also does whatever it takes to execute them with fierce resolve. It’s my hope that you will strive, by God’s amazing grace, toward the all-important goal of being an All Pro Dad. 一个称职的父亲不仅要知道这几个基本原则——爱与领导力——还要有实践它们决心。最后祝愿每一个父亲都努力实现这个重要的目标——成为一个称职的父亲。

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